I need help.
Not only am I a very independent person and just the thought of asking for help feels like I’m letting myself down, but also the THING I’m asking help for is putting me all the way out of my comfort zone. But like the Neale Donald Walsch quote The Better Man Project posted in February proclaims: “life begins at the end of you comfort zone”. So lets get this over with.
The THING I need help with is love.
I always believed that if you actively seek love you come across as desperate. If your desperate, the chances of you ending up with the wrong person are big, because you are so focused on finding someone that without realizing it, anyone becomes an option. I believed that the best relationships are those that come your way without you really looking for it.
This means that I’ve never put myself out there. There had been a view guys, but I always ended it before it really started, because I couldn’t see it going anywhere. I now realize that this is not how it works; very few people find love without looking for it in one or another way. And even though you might find love in a place where you haven’t expected to find it, it necessarily means that you must have been open for it in the first place.
Because I have no experience in putting myself out there and being open for love, I now have a problem, and I’m asking for help. How do I start? Please give me advice. If the advice is “do-able”, I will try it and give feedback.